A history of systemic violence towards BIPOC and what you can do to help

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An empty classroom
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Sex education is racist. While at times I’m sure it is overtly racist, I’m specifically talking about systemic racism: prejudice and abuse based on race that is deeply entrenched in our society. These factors compound together to engrain policies of discrimination on an organizational level, effectively hurting people of color.

A particularly nasty combination of housing discrimination, public school funding practices, and abstinence-only education grants is a direct cause of systemic racism in sex education. It’s the reason why Black and Hispanic teens get pregnant or contract sexually transmitted infections (STIs) at a far higher rate than white teens.

It…


Back then, I had no legal recourse. Where is the law now?

A picture of the back of a naked woman hugging herself as if exposed
A picture of the back of a naked woman hugging herself as if exposed
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When I was seventeen and in high school, a naked picture of me from when I was fifteen was distributed amongst my classmates. This was done without my consent and as an act of retaliation. You can hear me talk in depth about this experience on the Sex Ed Podcast (season 2, episode 5: A Personal Story of Revenge Porn), but I’ll fill you in with some quick details here.

This was back in 2008, so (of course) it involves Myspace. I pissed off my ex-boyfriend’s best friend and the way he decided to get revenge on me was by…


And he’s proposing to me too

Two wedding rings on a rock
Two wedding rings on a rock
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I was in a Taco Bell drive-thru with my boyfriend when we decided we would get married. I had been thinking about proposing to him for a while and floated the idea of me proposing to him, instead of the traditional man-proposes-to-woman.

When we talked about it, neither of us felt right about just one of us spending a lot of money on a ring and planning a big romantic proposal. We both wanted to have the opportunity.

So right there in that drive-thru, before we received our Crunch Wrap Supremes and Quesaritos (RIP), we decided that we were “unofficially”…


The perfect cure for a cold, rainy day

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It’s finally November. The weather is getting chillier and I’m swapping out my favorite fresh blackberry margarita recipe for something a little more comforting: mulled wine.

Not only does the drink smell just like a crisp, fall evening, it’s also loaded with booze and a fascinating history that stretches back thousands of years.

The History of Mulled Wine

Most people know of mulled wine as a winter tradition, but it actually dates back to the 2nd century. In an effort to avoid dumping old, leftover, or spoiled wine, mulled wine was created by using heat, sugar, and spices to mask the bad taste. This is…


Leveraging talents and passions to make money as a writer

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This may seem obvious to many, but for me, finding a niche felt like a misty cloud of confusion when I first started to write for money.

My initial mistake was thinking that a niche was something that no one else was writing about. This is false. A niche is just a specific area of writing that you have expertise in. In fact, there’s probably not a topic on the planet that you could write about that literally no one else has ever written about.

The truth is, there’s a huge need for good writing. Some of the informational material…


It’s not because I’m rich.

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A few weeks ago, my friends and I were talking about our favorite candies. One friend, who was born and raised in South America, mentioned that she didn’t like to eat most popular candies in the US because pretty much all chocolate here is made with slave labor.

My initial instinct was to brush her comment off. Maybe she recently watched a documentary that over-exaggerated the problem. Sure, I’d seen the occasional candy marked with Fair Trade stickers and heard stories of atrocious labor conditions in big industries, but surely it couldn’t be all chocolate.

Would that include my favorite…


Keeping up with your friends from the comfort of your own home

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At this point, everyone should be familiar with COVID-19 and social distancing. Most of us are stuck at home for the foreseeable future, only socializing with whoever we already live with.

There seems to be no answer to the question “how long will this go on?” so our best bet is to try to make the most of it. In order to best avoid cabin fever and attempt to not continuously want to kill whoever we live with, it’s important to virtually socialize outside of our home circle.

Of course, FaceTime, Skype, Zoom, Google Hangouts, and a million other apps…


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There are lots of common misconceptions about the daily activities of software engineers at tech startups. Popular culture has fed into stereotypes that coders spend whole days either quietly hunched over a laptop or wasting time drinking craft IPAs and fist-bumping each other over a game of Super Smash Bros.

In my experience, it was a little of column A, a little of column B, and a whole lot of not-at-all-like-that. Below, I’ve outlined a regular day in my life as a software engineer (when I was one, I’m a writer now). …


Because keeping your data safe matters.

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Please, please, please (with a cherry on top) backup your data.

Why?

You can lose important things forever:

  • Cherished moments
  • Money
  • Creative work
  • “Work” work
  • So much more…

No one is safe from this happening. As it was being made, Toy Story 2 was completely deleted (they suspect a rogue /bin/rm -r -f *). Their backups were incomplete and out of date. They ended up retrieving a good amount of the movie from an old computer, but it was a process that took almost the entire company heaps of hours of manual labor.

When this happened to Pixar, they didn’t…


From someone who has tried them all

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While it is true that I work as a freelance writer now, I spent 5 years of my life as a software engineer.

During my time in developer-land I was unhappy, so I moved around a lot.

I worked for:

  • A giant corporation that you’ve definitely heard of,
  • A tiny startup at the pre-seed level of funding that had three members (I was one of them) and was located in a co-working space, and
  • An established startup that already had multiple rounds of funding when I joined.

Each company was vastly different from the others and offered unique experiences. Depending…

Kaylee Moser

Kaylee is a freelance writer from the Bay Area, now living in the Sierra Foothills of California. You can find out more at kayleemoser.com.

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